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Whether you were pregnant for 6 weeks or 16 weeks before having a miscarriage--the loss is still the same. And boy it can be a heavy, unexplainable kind of loss. You know you are grieving but society might tell you otherwise (with pretty hurtful comments). 

You learn that two embryos didn't make it to Day 5. You learn one didn't make it through the thaw the morning of your FET. You learn your transfer didn't work. You aren't sure what to make of these feelings because it doesn't fit a specific category---but it does: grief.  

You are allowed to grieve these losses. The loss of the future you planned for each pregnancy and embryo. The loss you have experienced needs to be processed just like any other loss.